“Intimacy” means being personally familiar with something. But you may ask, “what is my date's soul?” or “How do I become intimate with his or her soul?” And most importantly of all, “Why should I desire intimacy with someone's soul?”
Before answering these questions, let me tell you a true story. Years ago I met an extremely gifted singer. I was very taken with this attractive intelligent woman. And, apparently, she was very attracted to me. We began dating and quickly “fell in love.” We made plans to spend the rest of our lives together. However, during our wedding engagement, we began to have major disagreements.
My fiancée had been singing publicly since she was a child, and her innermost desire was to travel the country singing and producing albums. Ultimately, our relationship crashed and burned. My deepest desire did not include living out of hotel rooms. I realize now that I had not spent enough time exploring this woman's soul.
It's very common to want to rush into a relationship commitment with a date you find outwardly attractive. It's so important to slow down and become familiar with your date's soul because your compatibility with your date's soul is the real measure of whether you both can develop a lasting relationship.
There are some probing questions that you can ask to help you become intimate with your date's soul. Here are some examples:
Some may consider the following questions too personal for a first date. However, keep these questions at the ready as you and the other person become comfortable talking about various things.
Of course, a person could answer falsely and provide very noble values that he or she does not believe in. Your job will be to watch and analyze whether the person's actions reflect these values.
Of course, I can't guarantee that someone will give you honest answers to all of these questions. But if you can ask these questions and determine the real answers, you will truly begin to become intimate with your date's soul.
Oh, by the way, I did eventually find a beautiful woman whose soul was in harmony with mine. I married this woman and now live happily with her and our three children