Turn your wounds into wisdom. - Oprah Winfrey
All humans desire much more than they have. Once humans attain what they set out to attain, they want more and more, faster and faster. Why is this? Psychologically this very easy to explain! A human desires that what another human has and he or she hasn't. A human is a social creature, it bases its higher needs on what society expects of him or her.
In order to have more than you have means becoming more than you are now. Growing is not without pain, endeavouring to become more than you are, involves making a lot of choices. For example, what are the steps necessary to grow in order to have what I desire. Life doesn't have a standard checklist you can follow, to the letter, in order to have all you set out to have.
And the day came when the risk to remain tight in a bud was more painful than the risk it took to blossom. - Anais Nin
Once you set a goal, be flexible about the route that will bring you towards it. Why is this? Life has a funny way of throwing curveballs @ you. Deal with it, that's how this game works. Easier said than done, off course. But not knowing, robs you from the opportunity to grow. Don't focus on the road whilst losing focus of the goal but instead focus on the goal without losing focus on the road. Sometimes your plan of attack works, sometimes you fail, sometimes you are so heartbroken that your goal seems ever far away. That's why you should be flexible with your road, once one road closes another road leads the way.
Explore multiple options, learn from other people's mistakes. What 1 person did great a 100 did wrong, learning the don't are as important as learning the do's. Be aware that each person is unique with his/her own unique set of skills. Don't take obstacles as being absolute, if you are hungry for your goal, life has a way of making it happen.
The measure of intelligence is the ability to change. - Albert Einstein